Saturday, 09 May 2009
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Go to the prom; don't graduate with your class
I was raised in the church. My entire young life involved the church. I was raised Baptist and I carry many of those same beliefs with me to this day. I attended a church that did not ban dancing and the like. I had heard of a few places that did not allow such a thing, but it never really had much affect on me. That is until my senior year of high school. I was dating a boy that attended a small private school. The church associated with the school seriously frowned upon dancing. He was even approached by the principal and discouraged against attending with me. He was not threatened with what this poor young man has been threatened with, thank goodness.
This young man signed an agreement at the start of the school year to abide by the rules of the school. Dancing is banned. If he chooses to attend the prom at the local public high school with his girlfriend; he will be suspended and not allowed to walk during his own graduation. He will also be given incomplete on all of his assignments. They will allow him to receive his diploma after he completes his exams; long after the ceremony.
Here is my biggest problem; this is a function outside of the school day. How is this school allowed to punish this child for something that his own parents have offered their approval? I realize there is the "contract", but come on. We are talking about a longstanding tradition of attending prom. They aren't going to be dancing naked on the table tops (at least I hope not). They are going to dress up in some really beautiful clothes that won't look near as beautiful when they look at the pictures twenty years from now (I know this from personal experience) and they are going to have a good time with their friends.
This is just my opinion, but I think the whole thing just stinks. To be forced to choose between completing your senior year or embarking on a night of fun with your girlfriend is just stupid. I look forward to your thoughts.
Again, I keep falling back on the contract the boy signed. The single thing they have to hold him to this punishment. What do you guys think...fair or power trip on the part of the school?
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Comments (11)
I think the parents are right and the child should only be h eld to the contract on shcool gruonds. Although i would like to see the contract. This is pretty petty to me. I mena why did the priciple sign the premisson slip for the boy yo go if he was going to threaten him. He could have jsut not signed the paper. it erks me .. Sorry about spelling can't find spell check on comment box.
Wow. I'm at a loss for words. To answer your question, total power trip.
I saw this. The school is being ridiculous. He is doing everything right with the necessary paperwork and the school throws a hissy fit anyway. Then they go on to actually tell him that he is forbidden to drink alcohol and have sex at prom or he'll be expelled. I mean really? Are they his parents? Contract or not they have way over stepped their bounds as an educational institute, religious or not.Â
I grew up going to a baptist school and church as well. it was fairly conservative, and while it did not ban dancing there were none held of the premises. While i do not agree that the school should be able to expell a student for dancing, since the student signed a contract that said he would abide by the rules of the school i believe that the school has a valid argument. question though, how would they know if he went to the prom?
I think it's ridiculous that the school would take it that far, however he did sign a contract, and if he was my child I would encourage him to keep his word, simply because it is the right thing to do, stupid or not.
I went to a Christian school and they made it clear that if we were ever caught drinking/smoking (whether during school hours or not) we'd be suspended, etc, etc. I didn't really see issue with that b/c it is an illegal thing, but dancing? They're just setting themselves for ridicule.
I think this is crazy. How can they suspend him for something he does outside of school? Prom is a part of tradition and its something fun you do to celebrate all the hard work you have done.
I was raised Baptist as well. That fundamentalist school is being absolutely ridiculous. They have no right to say what he can and cannot do outside of school hours!!! That infuriates me too!
If I were that boy's parents, I would've taken him out of that school a long time ago. Fundamentalists give Christians a bad name.
I think they are being absolutely ridiculous - this is what gives Christians a bad name.
@KnowingHimm@xanga - Very interesting question. I do know he was required to have his principal sign a paper for the school holding the prom, but who is to say he actually attended? Point to ponder.
That's crappy. What's so wrong with dancing? Did I miss something?? Geez. It's things like this that make me cling to being Atheist even tighter...what's life without the occasional dancing?!
He did sign the contract and I do suppose this is a good life lesson... I mean, if you sign a contract with a job that has a no-compete clause, that applies even when in your own free time outside of the 9-5...so I guess I see the leg that the school is standing on. (But...that doesn't mean that I agree with it anymore.)
I doubt he was 18 at the beginning of the year. Thus it isnt a legal contract. Oh, Im such a brat.
Heres the kick in the nuts. I never danced at my proms!