Wednesday, 27 May 2009

• Much ado about nothing

  I am so excited. Jake and Whitney's laptops came today and I finally have mine back. Whitney "borrowed" it two years ago and I haven't seen it since. It has been missed. When there is one computer and five children; my time is severely limited. I am happily sitting in my favorite chair writing this blog. Life is good.

  I will say; damn, those kids got some amazing laptops. Whitney's is pink and I so want it. We all know I love all things pink, but mine will have to wait. These were their 8th grade graduation gifts and until we pay them off; no new laptop for me. I will just have to survive with my dinosaur. LOL

  Wednesday prior to our leaving, Caleb decided he wanted a haircut. Caleb's hair is a blog all on its own, so Matt and I were shocked when he made the decision. We headed right over and got him an adorable cut that left his beautiful curls intact. I was so worried that he would not look like himself when they were done, but it was perfect. He loves it and I no longer get those "oh, what beautiful girls you have" comments. Pictures are coming in a few days.

  I spent five days with my mom. I haven't spent more than 36 hours with her in ten years and I was more than a little nervous. We had the best time and I was so thrilled we had those days. Day one was a bit funny because my mother had to make her oh so subtle comments about me, but I had already decided that the best approach was to just laugh. It worked and I honestly think our relationship is stronger than it has ever been. Admittedly that isn't saying too much seeing how we really never got along, but I sense improvement.

  She and Caleb got along wonderfully. He was his most charming self and won her over after five minutes. He adored my na-na and I think that did her a world of good. My na-na can be difficult to take in long spurts, so most kids shy away from her. Caleb just fawned all over her and it seemed to lift her spirits. For that I am thrilled. Since the passing of my pa, na-na has been down. She told me having the kids in the house was the much needed lift she had been seeking.

  I spent some much needed time with Alyssa. I came away very concerned about her living situation and her overall mental health. The plan is to finally get her out here living with us and start seeking out some assistance for her to help her deal with her issues. I have been trying for seven years to make this happen; keep your fingers crossed that all goes smoothly. At this point; if the ex refuses; I will head back to Texas and take my concerns before the court. I really hope we don't reach that level, but after witnessing what I did I cannot allow the situation to continue. She is scheduled to be out within the next month; I am waiting for my mom to get her schedule clear. In the meantime; my mom will hopefully be picking her up to take to her home in Dallas. You can imagine that if I am wanting my mom to take her; the home situation must be pretty awful. You would be correct. Nothing against the ex; he is doing the best he can; but Alyssa needs help beyond his ability.

  Overall, it was great to go home and reconnect with my family. I did speak with Garrett about the upcoming birth of his child. I have a new understanding of the situation and am no longer upset with his handling of things. I had been hearing one side of a rather complicated story and after getting details not just from him but also his grandmother; I realize things were not as they were originally presented. It comes down to; these are two very young people facing a very difficult journey. Neither party is acting in the most of mature manners and they both need to start focusing on the best interest of their child and less on the drama that is their relationship. I was much better after our talk. Garrett knows that he has responsibilities ahead of him and he is ready to take on the care of his child. I do not know if the two will be able to come together as a couple, but I do know that he will do whatever necessary to care for this baby. That is all I ask of him. If they are not good together then for that child's sake; stay apart.

  That is it for now. I did have a chance to check out the pictures the ex took with my camera. Sadly; my camera began to die shortly after graduation started, but he got a few good shots. There were not near as many as I had hoped, but we do have a few. I will be getting those up hopefully Friday. Matt is off tomorrow and I plan on spending some much needed time with him. If I learned one thing from this trip it is that I can't be without him. He really is my best friend and my biggest support system. We might have our troubles, but apart it is far worse. I hope to remember that during the less than perfect times.

  I had something else to say, but the stupid computer just wigged out and I lost my train of thought. I hate when that happens. Oh well; if and when I remember I will include it in another blog.

  Have a great Thursday!!

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