Tuesday, 03 November 2009
-
Progress?
As I mentioned briefly in my pulse last night; Josh and I are once again butting heads. Shocking, isn't it?
Due to the continuing overflow of my kitchen sink in the mornings, I explained to the kids that if it didn't stop they would all be held accountable for it. My thought process was that by having them all responsible for the mistakes of one I would alleviate the whole "that isn't mine issue" that always arises. It matter not whose it was, they were all paying the consequences. The consequence was going to be the loss of all things electronic for one week. This included television, phones, ipods, radios, hand held games, PS 2, and the most heart wrenching; no computers.
Yes, it sounds drastic, but I have been having this problem for more than six months and I was tired of it. I needed to do something drastic to make my point. The rule has been in place for about a week and thus far they have all been good about holding one another accountable.
Last night Jake noticed that Josh and Liz had failed to remove their glasses following dinner. I will not remind them because I want them to learn to be responsible for their own actions without constant reminders. Jake went and told them both to come wash their glasses because he did not want to lose his internet for a week due to their irresponsibility. Liz came right in and washed hers with no problems. Josh was of course another story.
In his "I am badass and don't have to follow the rules" attitude he walks in and with me standing not two feet away says; "Maybe I don't feel like washing my glass. I don't care if we lose the electronics for a week. It is a stupid rule." I just looked at him in disbelief and asked him to repeat what he had just said. In his typical fashion, he refused and said he was "just kidding". Um, no you were being disrespectful and I am so beyond sick of it.
Matt was of course in the shower so he missed the entire episode. I, for many reasons, feel helpless when it comes to dealing with this situation. I did mention to Matt that there had been a problem and his immediate response was "Josh isn't even in here." Not exactly an opening for a discussion. I just put it aside and went to bed.
This morning I decided to email Matt explaining what exactly happened. It seemed to work. I stated very clearly how frustrated that I am with all of this and how I really needed us to get on the same page. His response was a positive one and I am hopeful that perhaps a bit of progress has been made.
Keep your fingers crossed and keep the tequila coming.
-
recommend
- recs 0
-
share
-
email
- sent 0
Post a Comment
- Back to gwacemom's Momaroo Site!
- Note: your comment will appear in gwacemom's local time zone: GMT -08:00 (Pacific Standard - US, Canada)
Comments (11)
eep yes more tequila. teens are so hard to deal with
Sorry you are having problems with Josh. Ugh,I don't want my kids to turn into teenagers. Even my 3 year old knows teenagers are silly. I made the mistake of telling them that the toilet paper in trees was from some teenagers, and he was flabbergasted. "Toilet paper, like you use to wipe your butt, like when you go poop??" Then this morning we saw someone with Christmas decorations up already, and not just lights, but major decorations, and Logan said, "they must be teenagers, that's silly, it's not time for Christmas". Haha!! Anyways, hope that story could make you smile. :) And good luck with the Josh situation.
Josn sounds just like my younger brother. He never completes his chores. He actually claims to "not know how" to do things like wash dishes. He's 17!
@Luv2BMama@xanga - LOL, that was a cute story. I agree, teens are silly.
@waking_up_older@xanga - That is exactly what I am trying to avoid. They have to learn how to care for themselves some day. LOL
*pours you a shot* Sounds like you need this.
Teenagers can be so difficult! Glad I was never one
Out of tequila. Rum or vodka? Both are cheap, but get the job done...
Good luck with Josh!
So when are you installing the audio recorders in the kitchen? They make some now that are digital and can record for a long time. When he says something like that just make a note of the time so that you can replay it for Matt. In the kitchen and the living it isnt an invasion of privacy at all because it is common space. Then you can show Matt and punish only Josh for his disrespect.
@der_lila_Stern@xanga - Yeah, that whole progress thing lasted for less than twenty four hours. I will most likely be serving up martinis soon.
@gwacemom - lol - I can always go for a good drink!
@Luv2BMama@xanga - Cute story.